Sooo, this past Wednesday was my birthday, and you know what they say: another year older and wiser too, amiright? Admittedly, there are some years where the amount of increase in my ‘wisdom’ seems fairly negligible (haha). But this past year was actually not one of those years.
Now let’s get one thing straight: this is not me saying that I’m oh so wise now, cuz FALSE! But I did learn a whole lot this past year, and I do feel like I’m doing a slightly better job of applying what I learned in my day-to-day. Hooray for progress baby.
I wanted to share with you what I feel are the top 5 most important things I learned this past year. Cuz sharing is caring and caring is everything!
TOP 5 MOST IMPORTANT THINGS I LEARNED LAST YEAR
- Put God first. Here’s the thing – my intention in the way I live my life is to always put God first and show through my actions that He is the most important thing to me. But does it always go down like that? No. No it doesn’t, And admittedly, there were too many times in the past year where my spiritual investment and prioritizing was not as it should have been. But what I found is that any and every time that I put my relationship with God first and truly invested in it – meaning saying an engaged, meaningful prayer as the first thing I did when I woke up and the last thing I did before going to sleep, and then actually studying the scriptures, or even just listening to them and actually paying attention (instead of letting my mind wander) — on the days I did that, everything just seemed to go better. Truly. Not that they were perfect or without their hiccups by any means. But I felt better – more capable of handling whatever came my way; more clear on how to prioritize; more productive, like I suddenly had more time (not kidding), etc. Now obviously this has everything to do with what I believe, but it has also really and truly been my experience that investing in my spiritual goals and my relationship with God, first and foremost, makes all the difference in the world in my ability to reach and achieve my other goals.
- Focus on what you can control, not what you can’t. Chase and I had the opportunity to attend a Tony Robbins conference called Date with Destiny. You guys – it was literally life changing. I still need to pull together a full recap, or break it down into sections and get it up on the blog, cuz it was just such good stuff that I want to share with all of you! Anywho, this was one of the nuggets that stuck with me most. Tony says ‘Where focus goes, energy flows’… meaning whatever you’re focusing on is where your energy will go and what will inevitably and eventually effect the material outcomes of your life and relationships. He then gave three little guidelines for how to check in on what you’re focusing on. Ask yourself first of all: Am I focusing on things that I can control? Or things that I can’t? If you discover that you’re focusing on things that you have no control over, stop it! Make a conscious decision to focus on what you CAN control. Focus on solutions instead of problems. Focus on what YOU can do to change a situation, not what you wish others would do that could change your situation if they’d do it. Things like that. It was such a good reminder for me.
- Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have. This is the second tenant of Tony Robbins’ ‘where focus goes, energy flows’ philosophy. He’s essentially saying to BE GRATEFUL. I’d wager to say that most of us probably consider ourselves to be grateful people, generally speaking, and that may be true, BUT – speaking for myself, since learning this tenant I have been amazed at the number of times my feelings of frustration or discontent have been directly due to focusing on what I don’t have instead of being grateful for what I have. Any time I’ve been frustrated about how things are going with my blog or Instagram or my Maskcara business; any time I’ve felt annoyed with my fitness level; the majority of the times I’ve been frustrated with my spouse (which rarely happens if you’re reading this, Chase Willardson 🙂 – 99% of the time it’s because I’m focusing on what I don’t have or what I haven’t received or a destination I feel I haven’t gotten to yet, instead of appreciating how far I’ve come or the opportunities that have been given to me or the things that my spouse IS doing. And as soon as I shift my focus, my whole attitude changes. It’s pretty cray.
- Focus on the future, not on the past. This is the third tenant from Tony Robbins and I just love this one. Far too often, I allow my past to ‘define me’. I subconsciously or even consciously place judgment on myself or view myself a certain way based on actions or perceived ‘failures’ from my past. ‘I’m not a very considerate person – not because I don’t want to be – I’m just not wired that way…’ or ‘That was something I really struggled with back then, so I’ll probably always struggle with it’, or ‘Sales is totally not my thing’, or ‘I’m horrible with time – late for everything and my turn-around time for projects is horrible.’ Those are all just some #realtalk examples of thoughts that run through my own mind, all based on my past. But one of the things Tony Robbins says is ‘That’s the old you; the old story. You want to change your life? Change your story.’ Or something to that effect. 🙂 Chase reminds me of that all the time now – ‘that’s the old you Naynay. The old story.’
- Be Nice to Yourself. And then be even nicer to yourself. I’ve had to work really hard on this one, guys. I want to celebrate the fact that I actually feel like I’ve come a long way with this – yahooooo! But there is still so much work to be done. Tony Robbins says ‘You wouldn’t let an A-hole live in your house. Why do you let one live in your head?’ Such a valid point. I’ve become a strong believer in the power of thoughts – that what we think is essentially what we become, and that our thoughts have the power to affect the tangible, material outcomes in our lives. I really believe that, largely because I’ve experienced it. How much more reason then do we have to get really really good at being kind and uplifting to ourselves – amiright? It affects everything. This is a big focus for me this year. Be nice to yourself Shannon. And when you think you’re being nice more often than not, be even nicer to yourself. Same goes for all of you. 🙂
So now I want to hear from you guys – any gems you garnished this past year? Any additional thoughts on anything I’ve shared? FILL ME IN!
And have a BEAUTIFUL SATURDAY!